It seems like we are taught from a young age to not go against the majority. This goes for cliches in school, work, life and even winning reality competitions. I was not born normal and even when I tried to fit in it did not work out well for me.
Let’s define what normal is. Normal originates from the word norm. According to http://wordnet-online.freedicts.com/ norm means. 1a standard or model or pattern regarded as typical; average. An example of normal is the baby boom generation was taught to get a job, marry, buy a house, have kids, and retire to enjoy the remainder of their life. Well, some baby boomers worked for the same company 20 plus years and up. Now they are retired and expect to be taking care of by the company for life. Well, the companies decide to release the baby boomers from the group insurance, the pension and social security is reduced. Now the same people that did what was normal at the time are suffering because they did not go against the norm. Who knows what could have happened if they created businesses or invested in stock or saved more money during their youth. Going along with normal standards does not usually pan out well for some of these people.
Well in my own life I purposely do the opposite of what other people do or think. There must be a better way to find a solution than following the same path as everyone else. I am not excited by trends that others make decisions on quickly. I don’t like to agree to submit to someone else opinion or ideas that do not align with my beliefs. Others are quick to say what’s wrong with me. Nothing is wrong with me I was not born to compromise who I am for others. Even when I wasn’t saved God had people protecting me from following the crowd. I wouldn’t get invited to the parties or do certain things because they said I was a good girl. Well, I felt left out and frustrated that I couldn’t join in but I am thankful now.
I am more than being a black woman. I am more than being single for now. I am more than being a mother. I am more than a Christian. All of these are apart of me but they do not define me as the norm in our culture today. I am multidimensional just like my creator so I can not be labeled and placed in a specific box. I am a trailblazer and I am constantly growing in different areas of my life. Nothing about me is normal and I am happy about that.
I believe you are reading my blog because you are different and I want to encourage you to be all God has created you to be. Do not let the normalcies of life silence you. It’s easy to give in to others but take the hard way I promise it’s more rewarding. It’s not too late to start even if you have compromised who you are in the past. This moment right now is your fresh start. You have God walking you through the process. God will never leave you nor forsake you. I have had to lean on this promise so many times. I am also praying and rooting for you. You got this!!! You being different is going to save someone else. You being different means you are a leader. Being different means you are a solution. Others are praying for help and God is waiting on you to be in position.